Everyday life can be so hectic at times that a person can forget the significance that positive thoughts can have on their well being.
Often times, happiness and success may seem like two of the most elusive things to most people. Most people keep working towards a sort of life they want for themselves and their families, but they soon find out that they need something apart from sheer perseverance and hard work to achieve their goals.
Fortunately, that one thing is simple enough to cultivate, provided that you are committed enough. It’s called positive thinking. This is the practice of replacing negative thoughts with positive ones until your mind gets used to seeing the positive side of things in every situation.
It sounds fairly simple I know, but it can be quite difficult for most people at first. However, mastering this particular habit can open up new possibilities for just about anyone, both literally and figuratively. Not only do positive thoughts allow you to feel happier and more content (as opposed to waiting until you’ve achieved a certain objective), it also allows you to benefit from the Law of Attraction.
Many people believe the law of attraction operates on the principle that once you have your mind set on something, such as a deeply-rooted desire or goal, then the universe or God will somehow conspire along with you to make sure that you get it. However, that isn’t quite the way it actually works.
Thinking positively and holding onto positive thoughts will attract circumstances and opportunities towards you but unless you take action, those opportunities will just become missed opportunities. You need to take action! You need to work towards your goal or desire!
Thinking positively isn’t some kind of magical recipe or spell that just makes your desires manifest before your eyes. What it does do, is it brings people and opportunities into your life that can help you achieve your desire. It is up to you then to take those opportunities and follow through with them.
Cultivating Positive Thoughts
If you are willing to put forth effort and take action, then you can start by introducing the following habits into your daily routine:
1: Practice positive affirmations, preferably in front of a mirror. Upon waking, look into a mirror and repeat statements that affirm your worth as a person. Positive thoughts like “I am worthy of love and respect,” and “I deserve to be content and happy” are all good statements to begin with. Enunciate each word clearly as you look at your reflection in the mirror internalizing the meaning of each statement. Repeat each statement 40 times.
You can say “I deserve to be rich” or “I love and approve of myself” or whatever it is you want to change. It may feel a little awkward at first but if you do this, every day for at least 40 days, your mind will become more convinced of such thoughts and you will begin to look at opportunities a whole lot differently.
These statements or affirmations work best when repeated 40 times for at least 40 days.
In almost all religious and ancient texts the number 40 was associated with great change and was a powerful number.
You have probably heard or read somewhere that repeating or doing something for 30 days is the time required for making a permanent change. This is the common belief today and that is wrong. It is 40.
2: Challenge yourself by doing something a little bit different every day! The main reason why most people are afraid to try new things is because they fear failing or being bad at it. Increase your confidence by going out and actually doing something you’ve never done before. You might feel a bit scared initially, but once you’ve gotten past it and realized that it wasn’t nearly as bad as you thought, you will feel a whole lot braver and more confident.
A few examples of new and challenging tasks include trying out a new recipe for dinner, chatting up a stranger on the bus or train on the way home, or even calling up that one person you’ve always meant to reconnect with.
Start doing things differently.
3: Choose your words carefully! The Power of positive thoughts is rooted firmly in equally positive words, so think of those that make you feel strong, happy, and content. You may also choose to use such words in describing yourself as well as others, or in narrating how your day went.
For instance, when asked to describe yourself, steer clear of negative adjectives like “ordinary” or “average”. Instead, zero in on the traits that you like about yourself. Are you sincere? Sympathetic? Devoted? Determined? Once you’ve selected your best traits, use powerful words to describe them. The difference you will feel afterwards is quite significant.
4: Don’t dwell on mistakes, be they big or small! Everyone is bound to mess up every now and then. Whether you forgot to leave the chicken out to defrost this afternoon or you completely blew getting into the college of your choice many years ago, learn to let go and to move on.
Instead, acknowledge the mistake and take some noteworthy learnings from it, but leave it in the past where it belongs. Beating yourself up over it won’t change a thing. Let it go and move on with your life.
5: Look for and see the opportunities in every problem! There’s a saying that problems are actually opportunities dressed up in work clothes. All you need to do is refocus your perspective, and it becomes easier for positive thoughts to pour out of you.
For example, losing your job is undoubtedly a loss and may seem like a stressful time in your life, but it also opens up the opportunity to start that business you’ve always dreamed about or to head back to school to study a course that you’ve always been interested in. On a smaller scale, being stuck in traffic might be inconvenient, but it also affords you a bit of time to decompress.
All these things may seem as stressful occurrences, but when you hold on to a positive mindset that dwells on positive thoughts, these things aren’t at all that stressful.
It’s important, of course, to acknowledge grief, frustration, disappointment, and loss, but so is seeing a new way forward.
6: Keep a gratitude journal! Write down at least seven things that you are grateful for each day.
These seven things can be as seemingly common as waking up to a new day, having breath in your lungs, food on the table, having a roof over your head, and being able to walk to landing your dream job. These grateful, positive thoughts are sure to uplift your spirits on rough days and make you feel even more blessed on extraordinary ones.
7: Visualize! Rather than focusing on what others have that you don’t, think about the kind of person you want to be and the sort of life you want to have. Imagine the sort of job or business that you want and see it take shape and flourish in your mind’s eye. Picture what kind of house you wish to live in, and the people living in it with you.
These visualization exercises will help direct your thoughts and efforts in a more positive and productive direction.
8: Improve your posture! Your thoughts often influence the way you sit, stand, smile, and talk. Slouching or keeping your head down does not communicate confidence or purpose. Hold your head up higher and align your spine when you sit or stand. You will instantly feel a lot more alert and confident.
9: Avoid negative company! Positive thoughts as well as negative ones can be rather contagious. Limit your contact with people who seem to do nothing except point out the bad things about people, places, and things. Seek out those who would open your eyes to possibilities and who would inspire you to see beyond a person’s outer appearance.
Better yet, look for a mentor whose life and mindset you happen to admire. If you spend enough time in his or her company, his or her positive thoughts and attitudes are bound to rub off on you. Avoid negative people like the plague because they are just as dangerous.
Positive thoughts are like medicine. They will help calm and relax your mind. It is in this calmness that the mind is at peace and that miraculous opportunities present themselves. Keep your mind in this state as much as possible and watch as your life begins to change.
Cultivating a positive environment is what I love to do. The everyday stresses that people face as I watch others (not a stalker, lol) leaves me wanting to point out so many positive things in their lives such as the air they breathe, or the car they drive, etc.
My guess is that people are in such a mad dash for the almighty dollar that they forget that it can all be gone in a snap. I believe that if they spent more time concentrating on the snap and less on the dollar, they would be able to just scratch the surface of being in a positive environment.
Most people do not take the time to think of all the good positive things in their life. It would be so much better if people would stop and think of all the positive things around them. I agree with you 100%.
Great advice! Thank you 🙂
Anytime! Thanks for visiting.
Positive thoughts are indeed like medicine and can do so much good to your body and soul.
These are tips every one should practice.
Glad you liked it. Everything starts with our thoughts. It’s best to stick with positive ones.
Thank you, great insights!
Great info and useful reminders of things I need to do daily… I definitely know our thoughts can get away from us. Thoughts drive our emotions and reactions, not the other way around like commonly believed. Mind, thought, and consciousness, in that order. I think I also read somewhere it takes 21 days for any new habit to stick.
The most commonly accepted belief is 30 days usually. 30 days works for some but not others. I hold to the belief it’s 40 days. I’ve seen it work with many people who had no success with 30 days.
I’ve done some extensive reading on building habits and the more complex the habit, the longer it takes. Something like building an exercise habit can take 6 mo to a year! But I think it’s great to break it up in chunks of 21 days and just recommit every 3 weeks 😃.
These are great suggestions! I especially agree with choosing your words carefully – how we phrase things can make all the difference!
Our words hold power. Most people don’t realize this. How we use our words is very important. You are right!
We all have the power to be positive – share the good side 🙂
thanks, friend! i had encountered this long ago, but somehow, forgot about it through the years. om now on, i will stay positive! thank you once again, my friend!
Thanks for sharing this!
My pleasure John…
Interesting suggestions. A little more practical than most.
Reading this and letting it soak in. Thank you for this great share!
Glad you liked it…
Choice of words we use every day do make a huge difference when it comes to cultivating positivity in life. Thanks for your Tips!
All great tips wish I could print this. Right now implementation of these feels daunting to me. I’m in such a dark place. Thank you Mark.
Anytime. In the beginning, it can feel difficult to change one’s thoughts, especially when dealing with a lot of problems. Just keep with it and you will notice that over time it will become natural and things will begin to change. 🙂
I need a life coach, passed away. This, this is all good stuff, all things she would have said. Thank you 😊
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I appreciate that and would very much like to reach you.
Great post! These are great suggestions!